One of the most difficult aspects of divorce is telling the children about it. No matter how much you prepare for this conversation, it is highly likely to be difficult and not a conversation you will soon forget.
However, there are certain things you can do to make this announcement easier for the family. According to Psychology Today, you should plan out this conversation in advance with your ex and talk to your children together.
Planning in advance
It is best to plan the announcement on a day that allows for some family time. You should not announce your divorce during a family holiday or right before bed. It is also better to take the time and come up with a conversation plan with your ex if it is at all possible. Even if you and your ex have a difficult relationship, it is highly likely that you will have joint custody with him or her in the future. It is best to start working together on this now.
Create a narrative of non-blame. Even if one spouse is at fault, both of you are still your children’s parents. Keeping a neutral tone will go a long way to preventing additional discord.
Talking with the kids at the same time
You and your ex presenting as a united front will help indicate to the children that you will still work together as their parents, even if you are no longer married to each other. This is also why it is important to make the announcement together if it is possible: this way, it is coming from both Mom and Dad at the same time and directly from the source.