Is it possible to co-parent with a narcissist?

On Behalf of | May 18, 2021 | Family Law

Even after a divorce, you must interact with your ex if you share children together. It is best to have a united front when it comes to child-rearing, but this often easier said than done.

If your former spouse has narcissistic tendencies, co-parenting can become extremely challenging. Healthline recommends the following co-parenting tips if your ex is unwilling to collaborate reasonably.

Be firm with your boundaries

Boundaries allow you some semblance of control over the situation. For example, if you find speaking with your ex over the phone or in person stressful, keep conversations relegated to text or email. If your former spouse refuses to abide by the boundaries you set, be firm about maintaining them.

Do not speak badly about your ex in front of kids

It is natural to become frustrated when dealing with a difficult co-parent. However, your children still deserve to have a relationship with their parent, provided there are no concerns about abuse or neglect. Keep your irritation under wraps around kids and confide in friends or loved ones instead.

Take plenty of notes

When your ex behaves in a combative or difficult manner, be sure to make a note of it. Write down dates and times of late drop-offs or pick-ups, document difficult conversations or arguments, and other conflicts and issues that arise. If you are not sure, document it anyway. This information will be beneficial in the long run.

Your best bet is to develop a parenting plan during the divorce process. Courts require both parties to follow the provisions established in the plan when it comes to things like child support and visitation. If your ex refuses, you can contact the court to take further action.