How can disrupted communication cause alienation?

Parental alienation occurs when one parent tries to ruin the relationship with his or her child has with the other parent.

One of the ways your ex-spouse may do this is by disrupting your communication with your child. Learning the signs of alienation can help you if you struggle to find a way to talk honestly with your child.

Sense of tension

According to Healthline, some parents lie to the child about what the other parent thinks or says in order to dissuade the child from talking to you privately. You may find yourself dealing with accusations of not loving your child, which are likely started by your ex-spouse. These lies may grow over time, to the point where your child refuses to talk to you or feels scared to discuss matters openly.

Children listen to people they care about, and your ex-spouse may use this as a way to make your child think negatively about and distrust you. This often leads to a ruined relationship and further alienation.

Lack of trust

Whenever you are dealing with shared child custody, keeping clear boundaries and a sense of trust is important for both parties. However, when your ex-spouse becomes secretive and prevents your child from communicating with you, it can lead to alienation.

Demanding that your child keep all his or her personal belongings at your ex-spouse’s house or limiting your child’s time alone with you can be signs that you are dealing with someone who is trying to alienate you from your child. Making a list of these incidents is one step you can take to trying to document what happened for future legal reference.