You may have gone into your marriage without a full picture of the legal aspect of the union. Please try to approach your divorce with a higher level of preparation.
You do not have to be a master of family law to get a good divorce agreement. However, it is probably safe to assume that your spouse, friends, parents or other concerned people might not be telling you everything you need to know. You might need to take some control of the situation.
Start from scratch
The best way to start is from the beginning. For example, ask yourself the question: What is divorce?
If you think it is mostly the end of a relationship, you might be more mistaken than you realize. Especially if you have children, it is highly likely that you will still have a strong relationship with your spouse. It would probably not be cohabitational, but you would probably co-parent.
Try to learn as much as you can about what divorce actually does to you and your family. From there, you can start understanding how to get what you deserve.
Make a list
Understanding divorce should give you a great deal of information about what kind of a legal contract your marriage is. You should start to understand your rights with regards to your children, the assets your spouse earned during your marriage, your personal life and so on.
With those rights in mind, try making a list of what you want for your new contract: the divorce agreement. It is your family, your property and your future on the line. You have every right to pursue terms that benefit you.
Stay the course
Pursuing what you deserve is not always easy. Your spouse might try to make you feel guilty about what you want. Your family might not understand all of the legal aspects involved.
You do not have to be stubborn, but remember that you made your choices to create the best possible future for yourself and your family. That is more than worth some tenacity and commitment.